It used to be, and occasionally this will still happen, that when you interviewed for a job and the company you interviewed with decided not to hire you, you would receive a rejection letter in the mail. It would usually say something long the lines of "Dear Applicant, Thank you for your interest in the (name of job) position at (name of company). We have reviewed your application, and unfortunately we are unable to offer you a position at this time. Should you find another open position that suits your interest, you would be welcome to submit an application in the future. We wish you the best of luck in your job search.". This was a nice way of saying that you either didn't qualify, you didn't do well in the interview or they found another applicant to be better for the job than you. There could be several reasons they made this decision but it comes down to the fact they didn't like you for one reason or another.
How exactly does this apply to a blog about dating you ask? Since you want to know, I'll tell you! I "met" a guy on a dating site a couple days ago, we'll call him "Half Marathon Man". We exchanged a few emails through the site and then exchanged our regular email addresses. After a few of those he suggested a phone call and gave me his number. Through texts we agreed on a time to talk. He called me that night and we had a perfectly pleasant conversation and were on the phone for a little over an hour. The next afternoon I receive this in my inbox on the dating site: "Hey, Just wanted to thank you for your time last night. I appreciate your kindness, but I'm not feeling like I have a connection. I wish you the absolute best in your search. Some guy will be fortunate to have you. :)". It's a dating reject letter! In all my years of dating, and there have been many, this is the first dating reject letter I have received. Of course my initial reaction was to feel slighted but really, I didn't feel any connection either. He was a nice guy and we had a nice conversation but there was no spark, no real interest in him. So getting the reject letter was no big deal.
However, it did make me think. Why don't more people send dating reject letters? It's certainly more polite than just ignoring someone or trying to slowly cut contact. It may sting in the beginning but really, it's like ripping off a band aid. It's better just to get it over with and let someone know your not interested. Too many guys (and to be fair some women) like to pussy foot around the issue because they don't want to hurt someones feelings but, as shown above, it is possible to let someone down and still be polite.
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